Just after finishing high school, my life completely changed because of University. It was a completely new world without a solid routine and much more free time (actually I didn’t have as much free time as I thought and I learned the lesson during the second year). This new life allowed me to explore more the internet, the blogging world, and dust off some old passions of mine. I wasn’t following what my classmates were doing/thinking/believing anymore. Not that I didn’t have a personality in high school, but we know how it works at that age: you always want to be part of the group.
I discovered so many things about myself. First and foremost that I am an introvert. Despite being an only child, I’ve always been surrounded by people because my mom has always been on a mission to not let me become a spoiled kid, so she was the cool stay at home mom who always organized play dates and, later on, study dates. I was a very quiet and shy girl and I loved playing on my own when I was at home but, enjoying so much my time with friends, I never thought of myself as an introvert. I used to classify myself as a people person rather than a lone wolf.
However, I always felt a little bit different from my friends. I never enjoyed drinking alcohol nor going to the disco (despite my love for dancing), I always preferred movie nights at home rather than crowded restaurants, I always had an incredibly sensitive skin, I always hated loud noises, and I’ve always been very emotional in circumstances involving animals. The impatient reactions of my friends to my “issues” made me thought that I was just a whiner. Which led me to a complete unacceptance of myself as a person. Why can’t I just be normal?
Thankfully, the internet taught me that we’re not made the same way and that different personality types exist. I’ve taken many personality tests and read a lot about it during the last few years and I was so pleased to discover that one of my favorite bloggers, Anne Bogel, was about to publish a book all about personality types. The book is titled Reading People and I’ve just finished it. I’m not very good at reviewing books, but this one was so good that I really wanted to share some love.
Anne analyzes different personality frameworks and guides the reader through the whole book telling also personal stories (my favorite parts).
I jokingly say I need two cups of tea and a hundred pages of a good novel to recover from a boisterous night out, but I’m really not kidding.
Oh, Anne, I couldn’t relate more!
According to several different free tests (I never took the official one because it’s a bit expensive), my Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is ISTJ, The Logistician. And I loved reading more about it in Anne’s book, she helped me to confirm that I belong to this type and to discover that Highly Sensitive People actually exist. I’m a normal person, after all.
The ISTJ is a quiet pillar of society with a deep regard for duty, tradition, and stability.
Reading this passage in the book, I couldn’t help but inner screaming “OMG it’s me!!”. I also learned that my leading cognitive function is Introverted Sensing and the description fits me so well, it’s impressive!
Those who lead with Introverted Sensing respect tradition, uphold the status quo, and do things by the book. They are organized and structured. They prefer routines and predictability and have a tendency toward nostalgia. More than any other type, they believe the past repeats itself.
Pay attention that it’s important to not fall into the trap of making decisions based on our personality type once we discovered it. As Anne says in the book:
Learning more about personality has helped me make peace with the way I was made (even though some days I’d rather trade myself in for a different model). […] My personality isn’t a limiting label; instead, understanding my personality has blown my possibilities wide open.
Visiting the official website of the book, you’ll be able to take a funny reading personality quiz! Mine is the Escapist and I totally agree with it. 🙂
Reading People: How Seeing the World through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything
Author: Anne Bogel
Genre: Personal Growth
Official website: readingpeoplebook.com
We are collectively obsessed with the idea of defining and knowing ourselves and our unique place in the world. For readers who long to dig deeper into what makes them uniquely them (and why that matters), Reading People explains the life-changing insights that can be gained from the most popular personality frameworks, such as Myers-Briggs, StrengthsFinder, Enneagram, and others and shares specific, practical real-life applications across all facets of life, including love and marriage, productivity, parenting, the workplace, and spiritual life. Understanding personality can revolutionize the way we live, love, work, and pray.